tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post4913648001632000694..comments2023-07-02T09:49:08.147+01:00Comments on pear tree log: From a Beautiful Princess to an Old WomanElainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18218332259187330304noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-47408660147494989552012-01-13T17:45:03.521+00:002012-01-13T17:45:03.521+00:00Jenny, I haven't come face to face with this p...Jenny, I haven't come face to face with this problem before, so we are just feeling our way around it. I really appreciate what you say, thank you! We were both bewildered at the episode yesterday as it is the first time she has done that.<br /><br /><br />Janet, Thank you! Our role does seem to be to listen - though I have to pay attention because she expects me to answer questions and fill in the gaps! Luckily it is also easy to distract her and nudge the conversation in a slightly different direction if my attention has wondered!!Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18218332259187330304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-27770861666277980152012-01-13T16:40:32.486+00:002012-01-13T16:40:32.486+00:00Love the old photos.
I think your instincts were...Love the old photos. <br /><br />I think your instincts were right. And she's lucky to have you. Seems to me if you just listen, do a lot of agreeing and nodding, and don't take anything personally, you bring a great gift to her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-29063794040678016212012-01-13T13:48:40.422+00:002012-01-13T13:48:40.422+00:00When my mother-in-law began to get confused, she w...When my mother-in-law began to get confused, she would sometimes think that her son was her husband. I don't think we need to necessarily correct the confused person, just try not to get them agitated. And you're right, dementia can be scary.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01816796977553847916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-47446610758359003822012-01-13T08:03:26.374+00:002012-01-13T08:03:26.374+00:00Joanne, people find her difficult to understand, s...Joanne, people find her difficult to understand, so they avoid her. It's actually quite easy (as long as you don't mind constant repetition) because there are only three or four things that she likes to talk about. I can't tell you how thrilled I was to get my hands on those old letters.Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18218332259187330304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-27751872569806714452012-01-12T23:39:22.692+00:002012-01-12T23:39:22.692+00:00I think it's wonderful you help with an aged r...I think it's wonderful you help with an aged relative. And also beyond price, letters of your mother's. The old folks want someone to listen and validate, and it's an easy thing to do.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834682329952369721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-19624783694543356272012-01-12T22:36:49.077+00:002012-01-12T22:36:49.077+00:00Jane, I am sorry to hear about your Dad. Thanks f...Jane, I am sorry to hear about your Dad. Thanks for the information.<br /><br />Owl, Well, she did her best! She has gone from using notebooks to using scraps of paper now. They are dotted around all over the place, little random scribbles about 'fur stoles around the neck' and 'King Edward's potatoes', 'Dr Kumar just a teenager when she was a doctor' ...<br /><br />John, I know what you mean! <br />I always love looking at old photographs, they are sometimes very revealing though.<br /><br />Mitch, Phew! That is a relief to know. I just kept hoping that George would go along with it too - luckily he did. I'll have to do a bit of reading on the subject and try to make sure that we get a little more help with her.<br /><br />Back in those days we seemed to write lots of letters. Luckily for me, my aunt kept most of them and I was able to save a huge pile of them from the rubbish bin. It was a treasure trove because it contained dozens of letters from my late mother, which I get a lot of pleasure from reading now and then.Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18218332259187330304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-41502438635551957612012-01-12T18:58:14.356+00:002012-01-12T18:58:14.356+00:00You definitely did the right thing in not correcti...You definitely did the right thing in not correcting her. And, especially in the early stages, the memories and reasoning are not consistent. It's difficult but you find yourself getting to the acceptance stage and just nodding your head a lot. My heart is with you on this (well, on all things)!<br /><br />The letter, by the way, is charming and heart-warming, as are the photos!Moving with Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12954028272162285597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-87803693147891749752012-01-12T18:34:31.363+00:002012-01-12T18:34:31.363+00:00I love old photos..everything seems so simple then...I love old photos..everything seems so simple thenJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-64644965770791091552012-01-12T18:16:21.977+00:002012-01-12T18:16:21.977+00:00What scares me is her insistence that she serviced...What scares me is her insistence that she serviced Spitfires and other aircraft during WWII. I can't help but wonder how many pilots got to 12,000 feet before realising that the wing bone was connected to the nut bone?<br /><br />It's truly sad that she is moving beyond the "using a notebook for a memory" stage.The Owl Woodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11484484539144369129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4525594470029141306.post-69658475837366132682012-01-12T18:07:10.865+00:002012-01-12T18:07:10.865+00:00My Dad has Alzheimers, it seems it is not uncommon...My Dad has Alzheimers, it seems it is not uncommon for memories to change back and forth.<br />Jane xJane and Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08102086552682194819noreply@blogger.com